Sexual Slutdom = Expertise in Compatibility?

Ok, this one is less article and more opinion. I ran across an arcticle asking "Are you Dom or Sub? Sexual Compatibility in the Bedroom." Oooh, promising by title. Even the first couple of paragraphs seem to be going in the rigth direction towards good information. But, alas, the further in I got, the more I realized that this "self-proclaimed slut" (aka TheBeautifulKind) has just managed to sleep around enough to form opinions on stuff without actually attempting to view it from any other perspective at all. Now, granted, that's what most people do. I mean, they ARE opinions, right?

So here's my beef with this article (Here). She is saying that ALL couples have some form of D/s dynamic. I agree with this to an extent. But, she also says that Dom/Dom couples do not work and sub/sub couples do not work. This just isn't true. It may not work for them in a mutually exclusive relationship, sure. But it does work. There are just too many examples of it working out just fine. Yes, this article is found in a fetish area of this website, but that doesn't mean it should be taken as gospel in the BDSM lifestyle. There are entirely too many facets and different dynamics coming into play for her to make absolute statements like she is.

She also uses a description of Dominants (as males) and submissives (as females). She doesn't elude (much) to the fact that these roles can be switched. She says that Doms are take charge, leaders, bosses and that subs are secretaries (someone has seen a few too many movies) and jewelry makers. "For the most part, dom types are extroverts, and the subs are introverted." Ok, that isn't true in wayyyy too many cases. A submissive personality type is introverted. But a submissive personality type and a lifestyle submissive just aren't the same thing. I do not have a submissive personality type but my lifestyle is a-whole-nother enchilada. I am an extrovert (for the love of god, the l/s symbol is tattoo'd on my chest like a badge).

My favorite part of the article is the last paragraph where she blatantly shows off her ego.

"Why do I think I’m such an authority on this? Well, I’m a self-proclaimed slut – I’ve had lots of sexual partners, LOTS of hands on research, and all that experience has given me insight on sexual compatibility in a way that someone who has only had sex with a handful of people can’t know."

Um. Ok. So being a slut is now reason for expertise on the subject. Alright. That means hookers should become professional sex therapists, right? And what makes a "slut" think that just because another person hasn't had but a handful of sex partners that they aren't capable of using their head in a sexual compatibility situation? TBK, advice to you, quantity does not equal quality. You spent 10 years looking for the right sex and some people find it within a few partners. And just because you have found what is right for you, does not make you expert enough to run around making statements as if you are stating facts instead of your opinions.

So, I think the reason I felt the need to criticize is that it's broad statements, stated as fact and is the stereotype that I don't fit in. It's almost as if she mixed in her few, biased observations with a couple of basic psychology definitions and threw them down as advice. Just look at her advice on how to tell who wears the pants in the family!

Oi! ::facepalm::